I never want to put out the wrong signals to coworkers, and I err on the side of keeping a safe but friendly distance. Her texts aren't overtly flirty, but they are intimate and feel more than friendly. Questions from lesbians have been pouring in ever since—lesbians apparently don't like being told who they may or may not ask for advice.
We've worked together for a year and gotten very close. We stare at each other across the office, we text until late at night, and we go for weekend dog walks. Workplace Obsession Roiling Knowing-If-Nervous Gal Five weeks ago, a letter writer jumped down my throat for giving advice to lesbians despite not being a lesbian myself.
I've never had a "straight" girl act like this toward me. Three weeks ago, I responded to a man whose coworker asked him if he might want to sleep with the coworker's wife—a coworker who was "not [his] boss"—and people jumped down my throat for entertaining the idea because it is NEVER EVER NEVER EVER okay to sleep with a coworker and/or a coworker's spouse. Your straight-identified workmate could be straight, or she could be a lesbian (lots of lesbians come out later in life), or she could be bisexual (most bisexual women are closeted, and others are perceived to be straight despite their best efforts to identify as bisexual)—and lots of late-in-lifers and/or closeted folks don't come out until some hot same-sex prospect works up the nerve to ask them out.
And now here I am responding to a question from a lesbian who wants to sleep with a coworker. If your coworker isn't currently under you at work and you're not an imminent promotion away from becoming her supervisor and your company doesn't incentivize workplace romances by banning them, ask your coworker out on a date—an unambiguous ask for a date, not an appointment to meet up at the dog park.
He constantly wants us to come to his house, but they're chain-smokers.I'm going to Los Angeles to interview a celebrity for a project, and now he's trying to insert himself into this trip because he wants go starfucking!He also wants to officiate at our upcoming wedding!My partner won't stand up for me when I say no to this guy.How can I get my partner to listen to me or get her jackass friend to leave me be?Can't Think Of A Clever Acronym Burn it down, CTOACA.